Keeping a Watchful Eye

A ship was returning to her home port after a long deployment out to sea. The sailors manned the rails in their dress uniforms. There was an excitement in the air. They were anxious to get home to see their families they had been away from for so long.

The same anxious excitement filled the crowd waiting on the dock for the ship. As it appeared on the horizon the excitement grew. The closer the ship came to shore the more frenzied the crowd became. Then came the words every sailor longs to hear upon returning from a long deployment. “Moored, shift colors”. Jubilant cheers erupted from the families as balloons flew heavenward and the band began to play. The sailors finished tying the ship to the dock and waited for that glorious announcement over the 1MC – “Liberty Call, liberty call”.

Sailors flooded over the brow to the awaiting arms of their loved ones. Spouses reunited; parents snatched their children up in tight hugs. Smiles, laughter, and happy tears were all that could be seen.

But one sailor could not find his wife and son as he looked throughout the crowd. His excitement quickly faded and worry took over his face as the families began to leave the dock and head for home. His family was no where to be found. They were not there. Then a fear gripped the sailor as he hurried to catch a ride to his home.

As the taxi stopped in front of his house, he saw his wife’s car in the drive way. He threw a wad of bills at the driver and leapt from the car. As he approached his front door his fears changed as he grew concerned what he may find inside. He threw open the door and looked inside.

His wife was in the kitchen, cooking at the stove. His son sat on the living room floor building a cabin out of Lincoln logs. His wife turned and looked at him with a big smile on her face. “Welcome home, honey. We have been waiting for you,” his wife said with glee.

A wash of relief flooded the man when he realized his family was safe. A brief glimmer of joy filled his heart to see his wife and son again. That quickly was replaced by a heavy feeling of sorrow. The other families were giddy with anticipation watching with joyful excitement from the dock for their sailors to return to them. His family simply waited at home for him.

There is a difference between watching and waiting. Watching is an expression of love. It is something you actively do. The father of the prodigal son watched without ceasing for his son to return to him. Even when he was a long way off, the father saw his son and ran to meet him with a joy-filled heart. The son’s brother only waited for him and did not know that he had returned until he was told so by one of the father’s servants. Likewise, the five wise virgins watched for their master’s return and also ran to meet him with full lamps when he returned. The five foolish virgins simply waited and let their lamps run dry.

Jesus wants us to be watchful for his return. He wants us to see him even when he is a far way off and run to him with joy-filled hearts. He does not want us to just sit around and wait. Like the ship, Jesus wants to be welcomed back with fan fair, balloons, and singing when he arrives. He doesn’t want to have to come and find us.

The Church gives us the season of Advent to rekindle that fire in our hearts. Advent is a time where we are called from our sleep to have our anticipation renewed. We are called from our waiting to be watchful again. Advent is a time we celebrate Jesus, yesterday, today, and tomorrow. As we prepare to celebrate his nativity at Christmas, we also prepare ourselves for his return. We do this best by recognizing Christ present to us today.

As Catholics, we are not called to live in the spirit of Advent only during the season of Advent. We should have the spirit of Advent in our hearts every time we come to the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. We start Mass by asking Jesus to come and be present with us. We are joyful at the consecration of the Eucharist because the Lord is here. We end Mass with the assured hope that he will come again. Every Catholic should come to Mass as giddy as a young child staring at all of the brightly wrapped presents under the tree on Christmas morning. Jesus gives us himself, body, blood, soul, and divinity at every Mass. It is the greatest gift that has ever been given. It is the gift of sacrificial love.

Let us return to being watchful people again this Advent. Let us be prepared to run to meet the Lord when we see him approaching from far off. Let him not find us simply waiting for his return.

Why is there suffering?

One of the reasons atheists give for their belief that God does not exist is that if there were a God and God were good, he would never permit evil on the earth. Likewise, people who have fallen away from God after a tragic event happens in their life often say that they cannot believe in a God that would allow their suffering. We are a very myopic people who cannot see past ourselves. We remember the past, often times better or worse than it actually was. We cannot see the future.

In many ways we are like a person who is on the first chapter of the first book in a seven-book series. Something tragic happens to the protagonist and we read on in horror wondering why the author had the event happen in the first place. The author, having already written the entire series, knows why the event had to take place as written. It was part of a much bigger story and the story would not be the same without it.

God exists outside of time and space. More aptly put, time and space exist inside of God. Every moment, from the very first moment of time until the very last moment of time, is the same moment for God. There is no past, present, or future. There is only now. God has written the book. He knows how the story will end. Only he can see the bigger picture. No matter how tragic an event is in our lives, it is all part of God’s great and mysterious plan.

So why is suffering part of God’s plan? Suffering is the currency of love. Without suffering, love could not exist. It is said that God is love. God is not just any type of love. He is the greatest and highest form of love. God is sacrificial or agape love. Sacrificial love always puts the good of the other before self. Sacrificial love is a love freely given without condition or demand for return. There are three rules for love to exist that even God imposes open himself.

The first rule for love to exist is that there has to be a lover and an object to receive that love. This is one of the reasons why God manifests himself as the Trinity of the three persons of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. God did not create us to be the object of his perfect love. If God were dependent upon his creation to exist then there would be something greater than God and he would cease to be God. The three persons of God love each other perfectly which allows for both lover and receiver of that love in the one entirety that is God.

The second rule for love to exist is that love has to be freely given. You cannot be forced to love someone. It is charity, an act done out of love, when I give money to a homeless person. It is not charity when the government forcibly takes money from me in taxes to give to a homeless person. One is done freely, the other by force.

The third rule for love to exist is that there has to be a choice. Just as someone cannot be forced to love, you also cannot be forced to be loved. There is a term for love forced upon another that comes with a jail term. God placed the tree of life in the Garden of Eden to give Adam and Eve a choice so that love could exist. They had a choice to walk with God in the garden for all eternity or they could eat of the fruit of the tree of life and live mortal lives. Like Adam and Eve, we have been given the choice to live in a state of grace or a state of death. We freely choose death when we sin. Sin is taking that which God does not freely give. Sin is what is taken. Grace is what is given.

Suffering is the proof of love. If love required nothing from us it would be easy to love. There really would be no choice in the matter. And without choice there is no love. The amount of love we have for another is measured in the amount we are willing to suffer for them. How much are you willing to suffer for God? Yet, there are things we suffer from that we get no choice over. How is that suffering about love when there is no choice?

When we suffer for something beyond our control, like from a disease or a natural disaster, we are presented with a choice. Do we continue to love God and put our trust in him or do we abandon God and put our trust in ourselves? The best proof of love is trust and someone who truly loves God keeps their trust in him regardless of the suffering they are made to endure.

Why does bad things happen in this world? We’ll just have to read the book to the end to find out. Until then we can trust that everything is part of a greater plan got does not choose to share with us now. We have a God of love who wants nothing but the best for us. If we are made to suffer for a time now it is so we can love him in perfection later.